Thursday, July 26, 2012

Log In Your Eye

Soooo, we are having some growing pains.

Superteen got completely dumped by a best friend she has had since kindergarten. In a pretty brutal way. The girl asked if Superteen believed in God. Superteen told the truth, her truth at this moment.


No, she does not. She was honest, even though it was hard and obviously not the 'right' answer.

So, her best friend, from kindergarten on, unceremoniously dumped her. Told Superteen she was going straight to hell and they couldn't be friends anymore. Unfriended her on Facebook. Told her she couldn't go to the camp that Superteen has gone to, with and without her, for six summers. Because it is only for Christians.

And that, my dearies, sums up my personal issues with religion. My vast and long experience with religion has had some high points, but many more low points like this one. My kiddo is on her own personal faith journey, and it is a meandering path. But it is HER path, her journey. She was raised in the church, and had some good experiences. She is not presently going to church, but she is surrounded by good and wonderful people, believers, agnostics, and atheists. She questions everything right now, including the presence of an almighty Father who "knows every hair on her head." I am okay with this because I much prefer a good and kind thinking daughter to a sheep who blindly follows without question.

Superteen and I have had many talks about God. About religion. About faith systems. She and I have spoken about what she believes right now. We have spoken about how that can change, that this is a journey. Journeys are defined by movement, so what she thinks at this moment may ebb and flow. It can be fluid. She gets this and she knows it is perfectly acceptable to ask questions and to explore faith or a lack of faith in God. I encourage her to question and to be open. I also encourage her to be accepting of people, whether they are evangelical Christians, Buddhists, or Atheists- everyone is on a journey up their own path.

I started to get angry at this 'friend' for Superteen because I know it broke her heart when the girl so angrily judged and rejected her. But then, I just got sad. Christianity is supposed to be about love. Jesus is supposed to be about Love. Obviously, that gets lost in the Sunday School lessons at certain churches. And affirms why so many people turn away from religion. This kiddo had a chance to model the love and compassion that is supposed to be her religion and instead pushed someone further away from even thinking about God beyond religion.

I started to write this with the oft-misused "Judge not lest ye be judged.- Matthew 7:1", but decided that Matthew 7:3 is more appropriate.

"Why do you look at that speck that is in your brother's eye but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?"

Peace and love and Amen, my friends. Be kind to your neighbors, no matter their differences from you :-)


  1. I'd go to your church. Your daughter has a wise mother.

  2. ((((hugs)))))

    Thank you. I read about a movement of the "unchurched", people who meet in fellowship without being a church. Atheists, agnostics, pagans- "others". I kind of dig that idea :-)


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